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Post by Shelly on Sept 9, 2014 16:55:29 GMT
Very off topic, but any mom's out there have any tips on getting your LO to fall asleep on their own?? My daughter is almost 9months corrected now and she needs to be held/cuddled to fall asleep. I don't mind but sometimes I wish I could just put her down and have her fall asleep on her own.
any advice?
... one tired mama
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mingiz
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Post by mingiz on Sept 9, 2014 18:54:14 GMT
Does she cry when you put her down? If so put her to bed and let her cry.. It will drive you crazy. But she is spoiled and she will realize that after awhile she isn't going to get her way and she'll go to sleep. A lot of mom's rock their babies and then wonder why they won't go down alone. They create their own little monsters. It will be a rough few days at first but then she will get use to it.
Good Luck...
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mistersmom
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Post by mistersmom on Sept 9, 2014 18:59:37 GMT
Wow, it's been 16+ years since I dealt with that but I will second what mingiz said. Wait til she is very sleepy but not yet asleep and put her down. Let her cry it out. Don't go check on her (it helps if you have a monitor to see her but ok if not, I never did). She will cry herself to sleep. When she starts to get better about going down by herself, start putting her down sooner (not time wise but sleepy wise if that makes sense).
It will be awful. Your nerves will grate by the screaming, your heart will bleed, you will cry as well. But when she finally goes to sleep, and it becomes more of a habit, you will be grateful you did it now and didn't wait (it will only get worse the more you put it off). You are not a bad parent for doing this. You need to teach children from a very young age that some independence is a good thing.
Best of luck!
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nhg
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Post by nhg on Sept 9, 2014 19:06:37 GMT
I remember taking a pre-natal class and they said to let them cry for fifteen minutes and how it'll feel like forever. This is if you know that they're fine, not hungry and don't need a diaper change. I used to put towels across the bottom of her door when I put H down for a nap and she cried. Then I'd turn on the TV or something so I didn't have to hear it. They said that sometimes they just need to cry. I never started holding her while she went to sleep or anything like that, though. My friend had a daughter about the same age and she'd rock her to sleep. Then she had a second child and rocking the first one to sleep was so hard and took up too much time. She eventually broke the habit but it took quite a while.
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Terry
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Post by Terry on Sept 10, 2014 0:52:28 GMT
Well it's been 26 years since I've had one of my own to try to put to bed, but I'm going to have to agree with what everyone else has said... you're going to need to let her cry it out. It will be tough, but it will get better.
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Post by Shelly on Sept 10, 2014 3:35:18 GMT
Ya tonight to put her down I put her in her bed, she was upset and started crying. I gave her a soother and kept my hand on her while she cried so she doesn't feel abandoned but I did not pick her up. After 10-15 mins she finally went to sleep! I have mixed feeling about letting her cry it out, it just breaks my heart. But at least if I'm still there with her maybe she will realize that it's really not that bad? anyways, this new mama's still learning the ropes  |
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Post by spirithawk06 on Sept 10, 2014 4:37:16 GMT
Something to think about. I was reading an article about why babies wake up when you go to put them down and why they want to sleep with us. According to the article it's not technically spoiling, since a baby doesn't process things like we do yet. It's survival. A baby is wired to want to be near her caregivers because she knows that she can't survive without them. Babies don't really understand yet that we will return. They just know that we are necessary for their survival and want us there. As they get older, babies outgrow that as they can process more.
I do let my daughter cry from time to time, but I find I can't sleep if she's not near, so I won't torture us both. It's up to you how you handle it, but keep in mind that babies take up to 20 minutes longer to fall into a deep sleep than we do, so she's likely to wake up before she falls into that deep sleep.
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