nhg
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Post by nhg on Jul 9, 2014 17:37:35 GMT
I have a friend on fb. Not a good friend, just a friend. She feels the need to post and take a picture- if not lots of pictures- about everything she gets to do. She doesn't have to work so her life is riding all day, taking clinics, camping, going to work sponsored barbeques, going out fir lunches and dinners and going to tack shops.
To me it totally looks like boasting and I'm sick of it. The rest of us have to work if we're not in my position. I know a few other friends are completely turned off by it.
The question is when does just sharing the joy in your life become boasting?
I'm about ready to say something but she's got a big mouth and can be nasty so I'm a little worried about that.
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mistersmom
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Post by mistersmom on Jul 9, 2014 18:01:15 GMT
I would just either quietly unfriend her or make it to where you don't see her posts. Sounds to me like she is crossing the line. I don't understand why people feel they need to tell the world about every little thing they are doing.
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Post by horselady on Jul 9, 2014 20:56:44 GMT
If you find anyone annoying on your page just hover over their name and a box will drop down and ask questions as to what you want to see. so pick one. i chose to not see the posts but if they are on line they will show in the chat box and i will chat with them.
they do not even know about that.
i find some people just need to fill their page and thus everyone on their friends list with every 15 minute updates. whether it be kids. horses, dogs. husband or what ever.
just change the way to see their items and have no guilt. 522867
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nhg
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Post by nhg on Jul 9, 2014 21:01:46 GMT
That's what I'm going to do, unfollow her. Another friend did this to her so now the boasting one sends them directly to her wall and then sends her messages asking if she saw them when she doesn't comment.
Some people are so self absorbed.
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Post by horselover4life on Jul 9, 2014 21:30:20 GMT
Even if you dropped her she would not know it till she tried to directly send you something or realized that your posts are not visible to her anymore. 
If you wish to make your life private to her....unfriend her.
If it is OK with you she sees what you write or update and you not see her posts & comments just block her....
I've blocked and dropped some and some have done it to me {TY!!}....until they were gone I didn't realize how much "stuff" they put up that I truly was not interested in knowing about. 
If you drop her and she realizes it she would have to send you a "friend" allowed message and maybe would question the dropping of her...just tell her you had some technical difficulties and thought all was as it had been before...small white lie...then allow her but block her so you not need to see her "me, me, me" posts. You're right, pretty tiresome, trivial and BORING!! 
If she is so wrapped up in "ME" she might not realize you have disappeared or no longer make comments for quite some time. 
smileys-home-474322...now can be enjoyable again!!! 
jmo....
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Post by lorddaxter on Jul 10, 2014 12:44:00 GMT
I don't have many facebook friends and I keep it closed to public, I have a couple friend requests from people I used to work with that I've just ignored, if it were me I'd do what HL suggested, I didn't know you could do that, I have a relative that plays all those games and its so annoying as I get about 20 updates a day from her game playing!
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nhg
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Post by nhg on Jul 10, 2014 18:28:42 GMT
Ugh LD don't get me started about those stupid game requests!
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mistersmom
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Post by mistersmom on Jul 10, 2014 18:47:19 GMT
It's funny because in the two games I play, when you go to send out requests you can choose to send to everyone or just those who play that game. I don't understand why anyone would send out requests to people who don't play.
Of course I also have mine set up to where my "updates" from the games only come to me (you can't turn them all off completely).
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Post by redzip on Jul 11, 2014 13:08:19 GMT
I have a friend who posts everything on FB. It doesn't bother me to see her enjoying her life, I'm happy for her,.., But sometimes I think she 'over does' the FB thing,.., I just remove those posts that I find 'over done'. No harm, no foul |
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nhg
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Post by nhg on Jul 11, 2014 17:17:26 GMT
I don't mind people sharing good things happening to them although some share way too much and always the same thing and its annoying. Plus I like to enjoy life, not always be taking pictures to post on fb. But people who are obviously boasting are too much. Look at me how great my life is! Look at all the great things I do! Look, I'm doing something great again! Just cheese me off.
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Post by redzip on Jul 11, 2014 17:54:57 GMT
Well, interestingly enough, my neighbor was just telling me about the 'selfie' craze
proportedly turning lots of younger people into 'self centered' humans I see you
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Post by horselady on Jul 12, 2014 1:04:18 GMT
I limit the people that can send things or share items on my page. i do not want to see kids day in and day out 20 times a day, takes up page space and i miss seeing other things. so i push the button that limits what i see from them just hover over their name and drop downs appear. just tap on friends and you will be surprised . i do not play games. and i just choose not to waste time with them. and for horror stories about torture of humans and animals. i unlike the threads they are coming from and sometimes i will message the person than the next day block them. in the future i can unblock them they never know if you do not tell them. but i always do.  |
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Post by nhg on Jul 12, 2014 21:37:51 GMT
Yes, I've clicked on the button that gets rid of the one post. I did it the other day to a picture of a huge a$$ June bug. I HATE bugs of any kind and unnaturally big ones in particular. It actually makes me feel faint to see a picture so I guess its a phobia.
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Post by lorddaxter on Aug 6, 2014 12:13:10 GMT
didn't want to start a new thread, so asking here, on facebook if you have sent a friend request and they haven't accepted if you cancel friend request will they know?
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Post by redzip on Aug 6, 2014 14:44:30 GMT
didn't want to start a new thread, so asking here, on facebook if you have sent a friend request and they haven't accepted if you cancel friend request will they know? Sometimes, if your 'friend' is not a friend of any other 'friends' of yours on FB (which can be how your 'settings' are set) the request ends up in a different folder (I forget what it is, but it happened to me and SL here, when we became 'friends' on FB). When she told me to check a different folder, I found several friend requests that had gone to that folder  Calling Shadowlark!!  She remembers what she suggested that helped me. It might be that your friend has no idea that you've attempted to friend her on FB. |
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Post by lorddaxter on Aug 6, 2014 15:55:57 GMT
It's my husband, I requested it years ago but he didn't accept and doesn't really use facebook that I know of, I'm just worried if I recall it he will get suspicious!
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Post by nhg on Aug 6, 2014 17:19:24 GMT
I'm facebook stupid. Like me not realizing you'd sent me a request, LD. It just happened that I looked you up yesterday and then it asked me if I wanted to accept the friend request. Well sure! But I don't remember ever getting one from you to start with. Go ahead and retract it and if he says anything tell him that he never accepted it and you're just trying to clean your fb up. |
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Post by horselady on Aug 6, 2014 20:08:28 GMT
I think after a long period of time fb goes into a ded zone.
as for friend request, i do not think they will be notified that you cancelled it. it will just disappear from the part of the fb page that waits for him to accept it.
my grandson never accepted mine and i cancelled it and he never said anything.
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