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Post by karencole on Nov 5, 2013 22:50:20 GMT
So I do homecare and have two ladies right now. One lady has a dr. apt seems like weekly the state will pay me gas if I fill out this crazy paperwork to the letter and have it to htem in a certain amount of time and if they decide they want ot. Today she started out crabby I got her apt. time mixed up so we were an hour early, then had the nerve to tell her we'd not have time to make all 3 stops that she wanted to make because I had to pick up Levi. She started going on about how you can't depend on people anymore and how nobody goes the extra mile and then asked since we were early could we stop at Kmart. I said sure I think they are closed but there is a lot of ads on tv so maybe not. Just my luck they were and that set her off, I asked why she was so mad at me and that really set her off. Because we always have to hurry here and hurry there and she told me a month ago she wanted to go to these other stores .....on and on and on ...... So when she finally stopped yelling I tried to explain and she started back again, I know this was wrong but I told her to shut up OMG she literally blew up in my face in my truck!!!! When she finally stopped I looked at her and said Iam done, you need to find somebody else. I think she was shocked but she said fine. I took her to her Dr. apt, helped her to her labs and we drove home with her back to me the entire way....45 minutes of her back. I asked her if she wanted to stop at the store she said no, I said you wanna stop here, she said no, so we just drove. I tried to help her out of my truck, got her things and she said "I'll take that" so I gave it to her and went to the door, she then got mad and wanted to know what I was doing?! I said I have stuff in there my yarn and Sock Monkey hat, she said "leave the key on the counter" , got in her truck and took off.
I think part of what got her going was she has a friend coming in from out of state to the train station in the next town over. it's not really a safe place during the day I was not going to offer to go at nite, for somebody I don't know and not get any gas money. She also threw up me not having the money to run her around all the time. IF I can ask my husband to put a new battery in my truck I should be able to have him put gas in it as well.
This is the same person whom I've not gotten my check for from September because one of her neighbors is pissed at her (they got my check by accident) and put it back in the box saying that person doesn't live her. No I don't but I've gotten those checks there for about 3 years! Not sure why they come in both of our names but they do....did. when the check got lost I contacted the case worker and had them changed to my name only. Who know you could do that? I had no clue. Thankfully my October check will be issued to my home address as well as the few days in November that I've worked. You know sometimes enough is enough.
NO I don't clean her house or do her dishes she asked that I not do all that! she just wanted somebody to set with her and keep her company while she watches her neighbors. well Iam done, I want to be where Iam needed and maybe just maybe I'll find a totally different line of work. I've not decided, my husband wants me to. I love what I do though Iam just not sure. Probally should have put this under vent, sorry it's been a day!
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Post by horselover4life on Nov 6, 2013 1:36:32 GMT
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Post by horselady on Nov 6, 2013 2:17:52 GMT
You are such an amazing person and those old people just take advantage of you and the state paying you is only a smattering of thanks perhaps now that the kids are bigger and you can schedule your time. a job in a hospital or working with younger people is better. if there is a veterans hospital nearby , they are always looking for help. good for you to get it all out in the open she sounds like an awful person.  |
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mingiz
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Post by mingiz on Nov 6, 2013 3:59:39 GMT
Sounds like your ready for a change anyways. hmmm For now take a deep breath and enjoy the quiet time of no one yelling at you...  Maybe take a different approach at health care. |
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Post by horselady on Nov 7, 2013 0:22:16 GMT
How are you doing today.? i bet the old lady called you today to apologize and says she wants you back.
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Post by karencole on Nov 7, 2013 11:52:45 GMT
Hey guys thanks for the support I tried to respond earlier but must have hit the wrong button and gave up. Anyway, I am doing ok money is tight really tight I'll be calling around today for another job. The women I just left was through the state my checks come once a month and well I've not been paid since September. Andy was beyond pissed that not only did she expect me to put off picking up Levi that she expected him to cover the gas money to do all her errands. And no she has not called to say she is osrry at this point I would not go back anyway. Infact we've not talked at all, shortly after I started we really thought she was going to die so she put me on her bank account. I went in yesterday to take my name off but it's not that easy so I texted her that I was there and what she needed to do. She texted me back that she had called the bank and her caseworker, I told her I called her caseworker on Tuesday when I left and said stay dry. That was it. She's mad and she won't get over it, she figures I was wrong and if she sees me in town Iam willing to bet she will just glare. I don't care, I do wish her the best but I won't grovel either. Oh and I did get another job in retail if the summer season allows. My other lady her friend has a shop in town, I asked if she were hiring and because it's mostly seasonal she said no but would keep me in mind. Said she'd love to have me in her shop working for her. The one glitch is I refuse to work on Saturdays it's when the wrestling, track, cross and 5ks are and I won't miss Levi running. I've only got another year and 1/2 before he's off to school and I don't want to miss that. The nice thing is I now have time to cook  and do extra baking which I really love to do and I've started back up with my art stuff. Before I"d come home just frazzeled but physically and emotionally I feel pretty darn good....I'll feel better when my check comes but overall things are well. |
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mistersmom
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Post by mistersmom on Nov 8, 2013 18:11:53 GMT
Enjoy your time off for now. Take a deep breath and re-group. Now is a good time to decide if you want to change careers or take a different path in life.
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Post by nhg on Nov 10, 2013 15:49:20 GMT
What I find interesting is that when she was mad at you she jumped in her truck and took off. If she can drive why were you having to haul her ungrateful butt around? This is the part where I have to say 'when one door closes another opens'. It's cliche but it's true. Sometimes you have to go through bad stuff to get to the good stuff. I bet within a month you'll have something new and better in your life.
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Post by karencole on Nov 11, 2013 23:08:48 GMT
I'll know more tomorrow but basically it looks like I will be out a months pay. She is lying, she is paying her friends to lie as well so it will be my word against several peoples. I've got a call in to the caseworker although I have doubts it will go my way I really do. Looking back this was planned, I was clearly a sucker.
My one current lady knows a very little of what happened ....I told her we had a disagreement and I quit....she is in a panic that I will leave her as well. I can't I really can't. I did contact another person about a possible private duty job, I've not yet heard back from him but I do expect to. If not I guess I will take what I can get through the office. Other than that anybody want to buy a goat or twenty..........kidding.......sort of.
I told Andy she was holding my check hostage, he's not happy but he seen it coming too and is glad Iam out of there reguardless of the reason. I can breath better that much I know!
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Post by horselady on Nov 12, 2013 1:30:45 GMT
If you are working for the county or an agency and you are putting your vouchers in. why is her word the truth. ?
She is lying and the agency should believe you and you should fight for the monies owed to you from sept.
from now on when you work for an agency keep double records one for you and one you hand it. plus receipts for the gas and time you spend with people. even if you get a voucher signed by the secretary of doctors.
better yet look for something else. perhaps a veterans hospital if there is one near you.
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Post by karencole on Nov 12, 2013 22:56:33 GMT
The Caseworker is backing me up. We are supposed to meet at the DHS office so I can get the check. I told the Caseworker I could be very flexable and would be happy to work around my past ladies day. We shall see. It's not the lost September check but it is Octobers |
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Post by horselady on Nov 13, 2013 1:50:13 GMT
good luck and stand your ground. you work hard a deserve to be compensated.
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Post by horselover4life on Nov 13, 2013 11:20:05 GMT
I agree, stand up for what you know is truth, not vengeful lies.
If the case worker can "vouch" for you for October... then she can probably vouch for you in September too.
Did you take "client dear" to doctor app't or anyplace that the staff would of seen you and recognize you as her aide?
I'm sure you have some sort of app't book for those app't you were made to transport her to...
Call and ask them for their assistance. Those people also make their living in healthcare and rely upon the paycheck.
Why do I get a feeling this lady has done this before to others...seems it was to well accomplished to be a first-time issue.
You've done right by your people Karen, let no one make you feel otherwise.
Put them first before yourself and your family at times, many times, and other times have brought them home to be with your family when their own families wanted nothing to do with them...
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Post by karencole on Nov 13, 2013 15:55:02 GMT
I called the Caseworker this am about the September check....it was lost, my lady didn't take that one.....anyway, I told her if it had not been reissued (takes up to 8 weeks) could she submit the paperwork to have it put directly in my name and have it sent to my address? I told her I understood it could take a bit longer for me to get paid but I was willing to wait. I cited that my past lady has a hard time getting around and if the weather is bad driving to her office would be very difficult. I also stated that I was sure she had better things to do than to babysit us and cashing a 2 party check when one party is not available would be very hard for me to do. Iam sure my past lady would not be willing to go to my bank with me. So the Caseworker called the State, I guess she explained what was going on and did fax the name change re-issue paperwork to the State as the check has not been re-written yet.
Now Iam just waiting to hear from the Caseworker as to when my past lady will be able to make it to the office to drop off the October check. She has been told she cannot hold the funds, if there was a problem in July she should have been made aware of it then not now. So at least the Caseworker is helping me out.
I will be so happy when this drama is OVER!!! Seems to be a month for drama!
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Valhallanite
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Post by Valhallanite on Nov 14, 2013 14:30:57 GMT
So glad things are beginning to work out. So much unnecessary stress for you.
coffee
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Post by karencole on Nov 14, 2013 18:29:14 GMT
THE PAYCHECK HAS BEEN RETURNED TO THE CASEWORKER!!!!!! YEAH, now for the downside, my past lady is refusing to sign it she is MAD, so it has to be returned to the state and will be reissued to me in about 8 weeks. I don't care, it will be difficult for the next month but I will get it no lawyers needed. So very Thankfull the Caseworker has been so willing to help me out!!! THANK YOU REBECCA!!! |
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mistersmom
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Post by mistersmom on Nov 15, 2013 17:56:30 GMT
Well that's good news Karen. I'm sorry the lady is still being a pill but it sounds like it is a good thing you are out of that situation. Something will come along.
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and do extra baking which I really love to do and I've started back up with my art stuff. Before I"d come home just frazzeled but physically and emotionally I feel pretty darn good....I'll feel better when my check comes but overall things are well.
